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4 Traits Men Find Irresistible

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By busylivingpretty · April 10, 2010 · 0 Comments ·

The qualities that make a guy fall head over heels all have one intriguing thing in common.

By Robin Hilmantel
source: www.cosmopolitan.com

Glossy lips and amazing cleavage will inspire a guy to cross a crowded room, but when it comes to triggering that hit-by-a-truck (in a good way) feeling, less obvious factors are at play. "Although guys might not even realize it, they have several deep-seated fears about commitment that may stop them from pursuing a woman," says Diana Kirschner, PhD, author of Love in 90 Days. "And on a subconscious level, they're instantly attracted to personality traits that put those fears at ease." You likely already possess the tantalizing traits Kirschner is referring to. The trick is knowing how to play them up when you're face-to-face with a worthy guy. Put the following advice into action and the only thing he'll have to be afraid of is falling in love too fast.

Ignore Him After Five Minutes

You've just met an incredibly gorgeous guy, and he doesn't even have a Brody Jenner–size ego to match. "At this point, a lot of women want to shower the guy with attention because that's how we treat girlfriends we like," Kirschner says. "But that can make a guy feel pressured, and being pressured into a relationship is something many men worry about." The smarter move? Don't act so impressed.

Refusing to be wowed easily will send the message that not only are you not pressuring him, but you may even be slightly out of reach. "Because men are biologically hardwired to be competitive, they need to feel like they're making the choice to be with you and then working toward winning you over," says John Amodeo, PhD, author of The Authentic Heart. "You need to give a guy the space to do that." Instead of focusing on him, pay just as much (and, at times, even more) attention to others around you, advises clinical psychologist Belisa Vranich, PsyD, author of He's Got Potential.

And when he mentions having done something undeniably awesome, like studying abroad in Nepal, resist the urge to gush about how amazing that must have been. Play it cool by maintaining a low-key tone, and challenge him to prove how smart he is by saying "That's a curious choice. What made you decide to go there?" By questioning him (instead of going all awestruck), you'll trigger his competitive instincts.

Be Comfortable in Your Skin

It doesn't matter how drop-dead sexy your outfit is. If you're not confident about and comfortable with your body, a guy can tell — and be turned off — in a matter of minutes. "If you move with confidence and sensuality, it's a sign that you're going to be just as confident and sensual in the bedroom," Vranich says, "which squashes any worries he might have that he's going to date a hot girl only to find out she's never in the mood." In other words, a perfectly timed lip lick or sensual stretch might as well be catnip for men.

If you're a normally confident chick who can get nervous around guys — especially hot ones — try focusing on little details around you. You can't pay attention to how the bartender is constructing his signature cocktail and psych yourself out at the same time. "Projecting your attention outward instead of inward helps you relax," Kirschner says.

Once you're feeling more comfortable, try dragging your fingers slowly along your collarbone, massaging your neck, or arching your back while letting him see and/or hear (try letting out a little mmm...). When he sees how good you're making yourself feel, he'll subconsciously assume that you're someone who loves to give and get pleasure.

Show Off Your Playful Side

Okay, so you probably already know that guys go gaga for fun girls and steer clear of chicks who seem uptight. But you'll never guess why. "A lot of guys are afraid that the second they commit to a girl, they'll turn into one of those couples who fight all the time," Kirschner says. A playful attitude shows him you have a sense of humor, and he assumes that any woman who laughs easily is going to be a helluva lot more pleasant to break out the boxing gloves with.

"What do guys do with other guys when they're at odds? They have fun and make fun of each other," says dating coach Evan Marc Katz, author of Why You're Still Single. "Guys don't fight dirty with their male friends; they just mess around." Ideally, that's the way he wants it to be with you.

"Being playful shows that you can reframe bad things in a positive light and laugh at them, not get too worked up about them," Vranich says. If he's wearing a goofy shirt, tease him about it. Or if you spill your wine or say something stupid, laugh it off instead of freezing up. A guy will especially read into how you talk about other relationships, so show him that you're the type who doesn't freak out easily by telling him a funny story about the time your friend's BF totally botched the first meeting with her parents...and how it cracked you up.

Talk About What You Really Love

That initial conversation you have with him is the perfect time to mention that you just went to your first foreign-film festival or have suddenly become obsessed with running or cooking or whatever. You'll simultaneously be clueing him in to what you like and putting one of men's biggest relationship fears to rest: boredomphobia.

"Men are looking for excitement, they're looking for high energy, they're looking for passion in a relationship," Kirschner says. "So they're inherently more attracted to someone who's thrilled to try new things."

Whether a guy knows it or not, there's a scientific reason why his natural preference for passionate chicks pays off. Studies show that doing something you've never done before leads to the creation of the brain chemical dopamine, which creates feelings similar to romantic infatuation. So if he's with a girl who loves to do fun and interesting things every weekend, the dopamine will keep flowing and they're both more likely to stay madly in love.

To show him that life with you could never be boring, let him know that you're prepared to sell your soul for tickets to see your favorite band in concert next month or that you can make 10 kinds of salsa that are all 100 times better than what's on the bar. In other words, don't hold back when it comes to what you love. He'll be wowed by your enthusiasm — even if he couldn't care less about your obsession.


64 Ways to Say "I Love You"

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By busylivingpretty · April 8, 2010 · 0 Comments ·
  1. Don't compare them to anyone.
  2. Be courteous at all times.
  3. Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
  4. Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
  5. Give your full attention when talking.
  6. Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
  7. Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
  8. Tell them how they bring love to your life.
  9. Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
  10. Talk about your day during mealtimes.
  11. Read books aloud together.
  12. Say you're sorry.
  13. Recall good and bad memories.
  14. Let go of the past to say I love you.
  15. Do nothing together (have a lazy "do nothing" day together).
  16. Encourage health in all its forms.
  17. Trust your partner enough to cry together.
  18. Act silly together.
  19. Be lavish in praise.
  20. Ask questions about opinions, feelings, thoughts.
  21. To say I love you, forget about labels.
  22. Encourage adventures and risks!
  23. Show your joy when they come home.
  24. Bake cookies.
  25. Leave stress at work to say I love you.
  26. Use flannel sheets in the winter.
  27. Solve problems together - such as crosswords or Suduku.
  28. Show your gratitude for them.
  29. Be a good sounding board.
  30. To say I love you, take pride in them -- and show it.
  31. Compliment them in front of others.
  32. Spend time with them.
  33. Listen.
  34. Ask for hugs and kisses.
  35. Take vacations together.
  36. Tell the truth to say I love you.
  37. Use pet names to say I love you.
  38. Practice self-acceptance.
  39. Hunt for treasure together.
  40. Be interested in their interests.
  41. To say I love you, let go of jealousy.
  42. Accept their weaknesses and flaws.
  43. Ditch work or responsibilities to play with them.
  44. Be yourself.
  45. Share chocolates, ice cream sundaes, milkshakes.
  46. To say I love you, ignore slights.
  47. Pray or meditate together.
  48. Practice forgiveness.
  49. Watch classic movies together.
  50. Leave notes or send letters.
  51. To say I love you, buy a "for no reason at all" gift.
  52. Don't gossip or judge.
  53. Give the benefit of the doubt to say I love you.
  54. Give space when they're in a bad or sad mood.
  55. Learn something new together.
  56. Go dancing.
  57. Keep your promises to say I love you.
  58. Make them laugh.
  59. Consider their feelings.
  60. Learn ways to rekindle the romance.
  61. Hide a treat in their lunch.
  62. To say I love you, make home a fun place to be.
  63. Let them make their own decisions.
  64. Say what you mean when you say I love you. Say why.

 

Saying I love you takes work and making your relationship stronger does take work. It's hard to be honest, and it's hard to accept the consequences of your honesty and authenticity. It takes time, energy, and commitment to stay connected through all the problems that life and people bring. It can be painful, aggravating, and scary to stick it out through all the ups and downs....but the alternative is worse.

Read more at Suite101: 64 Ways to Say I Love You: A List of Relationship Tips for Lovers http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/60_ways_to_say_i_love_you#ixzz0kX4LBVVX

64 Ways to Say "I Love You"

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By busylivingpretty · April 8, 2010 · 0 Comments ·
  1. Don't compare them to anyone.
  2. Be courteous at all times.
  3. Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
  4. Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
  5. Give your full attention when talking.
  6. Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
  7. Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
  8. Tell them how they bring love to your life.
  9. Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
  10. Talk about your day during mealtimes.
  11. Read books aloud together.
  12. Say you're sorry.
  13. Recall good and bad memories.
  14. Let go of the past to say I love you.
  15. Do nothing together (have a lazy "do nothing" day together).
  16. Encourage health in all its forms.
  17. Trust your partner enough to cry together.
  18. Act silly together.
  19. Be lavish in praise.
  20. Ask questions about opinions, feelings, thoughts.
  21. To say I love you, forget about labels.
  22. Encourage adventures and risks!
  23. Show your joy when they come home.
  24. Bake cookies.
  25. Leave stress at work to say I love you.
  26. Use flannel sheets in the winter.
  27. Solve problems together - such as crosswords or Suduku.
  28. Show your gratitude for them.
  29. Be a good sounding board.
  30. To say I love you, take pride in them -- and show it.
  31. Compliment them in front of others.
  32. Spend time with them.
  33. Listen.
  34. Ask for hugs and kisses.
  35. Take vacations together.
  36. Tell the truth to say I love you.
  37. Use pet names to say I love you.
  38. Practice self-acceptance.
  39. Hunt for treasure together.
  40. Be interested in their interests.
  41. To say I love you, let go of jealousy.
  42. Accept their weaknesses and flaws.
  43. Ditch work or responsibilities to play with them.
  44. Be yourself.
  45. Share chocolates, ice cream sundaes, milkshakes.
  46. To say I love you, ignore slights.
  47. Pray or meditate together.
  48. Practice forgiveness.
  49. Watch classic movies together.
  50. Leave notes or send letters.
  51. To say I love you, buy a "for no reason at all" gift.
  52. Don't gossip or judge.
  53. Give the benefit of the doubt to say I love you.
  54. Give space when they're in a bad or sad mood.
  55. Learn something new together.
  56. Go dancing.
  57. Keep your promises to say I love you.
  58. Make them laugh.
  59. Consider their feelings.
  60. Learn ways to rekindle the romance.
  61. Hide a treat in their lunch.
  62. To say I love you, make home a fun place to be.
  63. Let them make their own decisions.
  64. Say what you mean when you say I love you. Say why.

 

Saying I love you takes work and making your relationship stronger does take work. It's hard to be honest, and it's hard to accept the consequences of your honesty and authenticity. It takes time, energy, and commitment to stay connected through all the problems that life and people bring. It can be painful, aggravating, and scary to stick it out through all the ups and downs....but the alternative is worse.

Read more at Suite101: 64 Ways to Say I Love You: A List of Relationship Tips for Lovers http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/60_ways_to_say_i_love_you#ixzz0kX4LBVVX

Shocking Ways You're Sabotaging Your Relationship

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By busylivingpretty · April 7, 2010 · 0 Comments ·

You may be the best damn girlfriend on the planet…but if you're guilty of any of these bad habits, you could be putting your connection with your man at risk.

By Christie Griffin
source: www.cosmopolitan.com

1. You give and give and give and give
Have you heard the one about the doting girlfriend who gave her heart to a guy for three years, only for him to say that he's not the marrying kind? And then when they break up, he turns around and proposes to some bitch (and we do mean bitch!), three months later. "I see it all the time," confesses Randi Gunther, PhD, couples counselor, and author of the upcoming book Relationship Saboteurs (June 2010). "Women know they have the capacity to nurture and care for men, and will be extremely giving. The problem is when a woman holds it against her partner—as if she's a martyr—and the guy suddenly feels very guilty and, even worse, obligated. A man likes a bitch because she has her own agenda that isn't all about him; he likes that he's not totally responsible for her happiness." If you enjoy being a giving person, then by all means, keep it up. Just understand that it's like putting money into a bank that has a hole on the bottom—you can't expect to cash in (say, like for a commitment from a guy). Do nice things because you want to—and don't forget to be a little selfish too.

^ I do this waaay too much >.<

2. You overcommunicate
With all the Facebooking, tweeting, IMing, e-mailing, and texting going on, it might feel impossible to not communicate a lot with your boyfriend or husband, at least indirectly. But all that extraneous info about what you're doing dissolves your alluring mystery, warns Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and author of She Comes First. "I actually defriended my wife on Facebook," he admits. "We've all heard the phrase that familiarity breeds contempt, but in this age of social networking, perhaps familiarity breeds something worse: boredom." Keep some of your mystery—and mask your mundane day-to-day life—by resisting the urge to check in with your guy constantly. And ditch all the dumb updates about what you had for breakfast. We promise you that No. One. Cares.

3. You air all your frustrations to your friends
Admit it: A good venting sesh with your girls feels great. You get to rant about how you think your man was checking out another girl last Saturday, or how you can't believe he wants to buy a new car when he could be saving that money for an engagement ring. But constantly telling your friends your guy gripes—even the smallest stuff—can sabotage your relationship, says Gunther. "Your friends want to support you, will sympathize with you, and won't challenge you," explains Gunther. "So then everyone comes away from the chat with the deep opinion that your boyfriend or husband is usually in the wrong." All your bitching and moaning can have a lasting effect on how your friends feel about your guy, and eventually they’ll stop supporting your relationship because they remember every last jerky thing he's done. Not good. So, bottom line? You don’t have to cut the chick chat altogether…but tone it down, and be sure to tell them about the nice things he does every once in a while too. You’ll feel much better about your relationship overall if you remind yourself from time to time that he’s a good guy.

4. You don't think you're hot
Do you have a hard time accepting compliments about your body? Freak out at the thought of your guy watching you walk butt-naked to the bathroom? Cringe anytime your guy grazes his hand across your stomach? These seemingly minor habits could be more dangerous than you realize because poor self-esteem about your body can damage your sex life, warns Kerner.

"If you don't feel sexy, you're just not as interested in having sex," says Kerner. "Or maybe you only want to do it with the lights off or leave some of your clothes on. Many men I work with are very frustrated because they think their girlfriends and wives are beautiful, but the women are very inhibited."

To keep your insecurities from hurting your relationship, the first thing you have to do is take your body-bashing down a notch. Stop pointing out your flaws to your guy—you don’t want him to start believing what you’re saying, do you? It's easier said than done, but start making the transition by incorporating confident little changes in the bedroom. Even if you really don't want the lights on, try lighting a few candles instead. After all, everyone looks good in candlelight!

5. You confuse hopes with realistic expectations
Have you ever fantasized about your boyfriend doing something special—say, throwing a surprise birthday party for you—and then thought about it so much that when it didn't happen, you were genuinely disappointed? Maybe you even got a little mad that all he did was get you a cupcake and sweater from Express. This kind of behavior can wreak havoc on your bond.

"You can't walk into a relationship with a script," says Gunther. "A lot of us have neurotic expectations, but are so invested in our fantasies that we keep going back to them. It's fine to hope for certain things from your man, but they need to be based on some realistic potential of actually being satisfied."

In other words, if your boyfriend never plans weekend getaways, stop disappointing yourself by daydreaming that he'll whisk you away to a B&B. It's fun to have fantasies, but if they're causing constant disappointment in your relationship, you're just setting yourself up to fail. Focus on the stuff your guy does right (rather than what he's not doing), and you’ll strengthen—not sabotage—your love connection.

^ My boyfriend says I do this...I know I do it, but sometimes I know I'm not being unreasonable. It causes the majority of our fights. Its just tough to know the difference! How can we tell? I'll let you know if I figure it out if you guys will do the same - deal?

Shocking Ways You're Sabotaging Your Relationship

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By busylivingpretty · April 7, 2010 · 0 Comments ·

You may be the best damn girlfriend on the planet…but if you're guilty of any of these bad habits, you could be putting your connection with your man at risk.

By Christie Griffin
source: www.cosmopolitan.com

1. You give and give and give and give
Have you heard the one about the doting girlfriend who gave her heart to a guy for three years, only for him to say that he's not the marrying kind? And then when they break up, he turns around and proposes to some bitch (and we do mean bitch!), three months later. "I see it all the time," confesses Randi Gunther, PhD, couples counselor, and author of the upcoming book Relationship Saboteurs (June 2010). "Women know they have the capacity to nurture and care for men, and will be extremely giving. The problem is when a woman holds it against her partner—as if she's a martyr—and the guy suddenly feels very guilty and, even worse, obligated. A man likes a bitch because she has her own agenda that isn't all about him; he likes that he's not totally responsible for her happiness." If you enjoy being a giving person, then by all means, keep it up. Just understand that it's like putting money into a bank that has a hole on the bottom—you can't expect to cash in (say, like for a commitment from a guy). Do nice things because you want to—and don't forget to be a little selfish too.

^ I do this waaay too much >.<

2. You overcommunicate
With all the Facebooking, tweeting, IMing, e-mailing, and texting going on, it might feel impossible to not communicate a lot with your boyfriend or husband, at least indirectly. But all that extraneous info about what you're doing dissolves your alluring mystery, warns Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and author of She Comes First. "I actually defriended my wife on Facebook," he admits. "We've all heard the phrase that familiarity breeds contempt, but in this age of social networking, perhaps familiarity breeds something worse: boredom." Keep some of your mystery—and mask your mundane day-to-day life—by resisting the urge to check in with your guy constantly. And ditch all the dumb updates about what you had for breakfast. We promise you that No. One. Cares.

3. You air all your frustrations to your friends
Admit it: A good venting sesh with your girls feels great. You get to rant about how you think your man was checking out another girl last Saturday, or how you can't believe he wants to buy a new car when he could be saving that money for an engagement ring. But constantly telling your friends your guy gripes—even the smallest stuff—can sabotage your relationship, says Gunther. "Your friends want to support you, will sympathize with you, and won't challenge you," explains Gunther. "So then everyone comes away from the chat with the deep opinion that your boyfriend or husband is usually in the wrong." All your bitching and moaning can have a lasting effect on how your friends feel about your guy, and eventually they’ll stop supporting your relationship because they remember every last jerky thing he's done. Not good. So, bottom line? You don’t have to cut the chick chat altogether…but tone it down, and be sure to tell them about the nice things he does every once in a while too. You’ll feel much better about your relationship overall if you remind yourself from time to time that he’s a good guy.

4. You don't think you're hot
Do you have a hard time accepting compliments about your body? Freak out at the thought of your guy watching you walk butt-naked to the bathroom? Cringe anytime your guy grazes his hand across your stomach? These seemingly minor habits could be more dangerous than you realize because poor self-esteem about your body can damage your sex life, warns Kerner.

"If you don't feel sexy, you're just not as interested in having sex," says Kerner. "Or maybe you only want to do it with the lights off or leave some of your clothes on. Many men I work with are very frustrated because they think their girlfriends and wives are beautiful, but the women are very inhibited."

To keep your insecurities from hurting your relationship, the first thing you have to do is take your body-bashing down a notch. Stop pointing out your flaws to your guy—you don’t want him to start believing what you’re saying, do you? It's easier said than done, but start making the transition by incorporating confident little changes in the bedroom. Even if you really don't want the lights on, try lighting a few candles instead. After all, everyone looks good in candlelight!

5. You confuse hopes with realistic expectations
Have you ever fantasized about your boyfriend doing something special—say, throwing a surprise birthday party for you—and then thought about it so much that when it didn't happen, you were genuinely disappointed? Maybe you even got a little mad that all he did was get you a cupcake and sweater from Express. This kind of behavior can wreak havoc on your bond.

"You can't walk into a relationship with a script," says Gunther. "A lot of us have neurotic expectations, but are so invested in our fantasies that we keep going back to them. It's fine to hope for certain things from your man, but they need to be based on some realistic potential of actually being satisfied."

In other words, if your boyfriend never plans weekend getaways, stop disappointing yourself by daydreaming that he'll whisk you away to a B&B. It's fun to have fantasies, but if they're causing constant disappointment in your relationship, you're just setting yourself up to fail. Focus on the stuff your guy does right (rather than what he's not doing), and you’ll strengthen—not sabotage—your love connection.

^ My boyfriend says I do this...I know I do it, but sometimes I know I'm not being unreasonable. It causes the majority of our fights. Its just tough to know the difference! How can we tell? I'll let you know if I figure it out if you guys will do the same - deal?

Relationship RX

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By busylivingpretty · April 6, 2010 · 0 Comments ·

In a relaxed moment, set up an agreement with your loved ones for handling conflict.

By Valerie Reiss

When Judith Hanson Lasater finds herself triggered, she takes a walk. This method has become useful for her whole family.

In a heated moment they will say to each other, "I'm going to go walk around the block, because I'm not acting consistently with my values. I don't want to disconnect; I'll be back. And I'd like to start over with this discussion."

Ask, "What's the most important thing?"

"It's what I ask myself when I'm teaching yoga—what's the most important thing right now? Generally it's the safety and well-being of the students. And then, their growth and learning," Lasater says. When she asks the same thing about her husband, she often thinks, "I want to stay in a relationship with this person. Let's figure out a way to meet both of our needs."

Say, "How human of me!"

"You know, 'How human of me to get irritated about the stupid way the toothpaste cap is off' kind of thing. And how human of him to act the way that he's acting. Somehow, when I hear that in my head," says Lasater, "it evokes a sense of compassion. It's just what human beings do. We want our way, and not only do we want our way, but we want it right now."

Hear the Real Request

Underlying each complaint that partners express to each other is usually "Hear me, see me," Lasater says. "I could take offense, or take it personally, or I could say to myself, 'Hmm...what is he really saying from his heart?'" What sounds like a grievance might actually be a plea to be appreciated.

Get Some Deep Rest

Is your partner often annoying you? Try Savasana for 20 minutes a day. "So much of what we find irritating is just that we're tired," Lasater says. "And to really deeply relax shifts your entire nervous system."

For more details on relationships, please read Grow Your Love

Valerie Reiss is the holistic living editor at Beliefnet.com.

source: yogajournal.com

Relationship RX

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By busylivingpretty · April 6, 2010 · 0 Comments ·

In a relaxed moment, set up an agreement with your loved ones for handling conflict.

By Valerie Reiss

When Judith Hanson Lasater finds herself triggered, she takes a walk. This method has become useful for her whole family.

In a heated moment they will say to each other, "I'm going to go walk around the block, because I'm not acting consistently with my values. I don't want to disconnect; I'll be back. And I'd like to start over with this discussion."

Ask, "What's the most important thing?"

"It's what I ask myself when I'm teaching yoga—what's the most important thing right now? Generally it's the safety and well-being of the students. And then, their growth and learning," Lasater says. When she asks the same thing about her husband, she often thinks, "I want to stay in a relationship with this person. Let's figure out a way to meet both of our needs."

Say, "How human of me!"

"You know, 'How human of me to get irritated about the stupid way the toothpaste cap is off' kind of thing. And how human of him to act the way that he's acting. Somehow, when I hear that in my head," says Lasater, "it evokes a sense of compassion. It's just what human beings do. We want our way, and not only do we want our way, but we want it right now."

Hear the Real Request

Underlying each complaint that partners express to each other is usually "Hear me, see me," Lasater says. "I could take offense, or take it personally, or I could say to myself, 'Hmm...what is he really saying from his heart?'" What sounds like a grievance might actually be a plea to be appreciated.

Get Some Deep Rest

Is your partner often annoying you? Try Savasana for 20 minutes a day. "So much of what we find irritating is just that we're tired," Lasater says. "And to really deeply relax shifts your entire nervous system."

For more details on relationships, please read Grow Your Love

Valerie Reiss is the holistic living editor at Beliefnet.com.

source: yogajournal.com

Google Completes This Sentence: How Do I Get My BF/GF To…

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By busylivingpretty · April 1, 2010 · 0 Comments ·

Another one from The Frisky...

David McCandless at Information Is Beautiful put together this handy charticle based on the most common autofills when you type “How do I get my boyfriend to…” and “How do I get my girlfriend to…” into Google. The results are certainly interesting. Hey, maybe if she shaves, he’ll propose, and if she blows him, he’ll last longer in bed. Just a thought. [The Gloss]

Google Completes This Sentence: How Do I Get My BF/GF To…

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By busylivingpretty · April 1, 2010 · 0 Comments ·

Another one from The Frisky...

David McCandless at Information Is Beautiful put together this handy charticle based on the most common autofills when you type “How do I get my boyfriend to…” and “How do I get my girlfriend to…” into Google. The results are certainly interesting. Hey, maybe if she shaves, he’ll propose, and if she blows him, he’ll last longer in bed. Just a thought. [The Gloss]

Before You Go To Prom

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By busylivingpretty · March 31, 2010 · 0 Comments ·

With prom coming up here's a little something for all of you juniors and seniors (or dates of) thinkin' about going:

From , former About.com Guide

Prom night is one of the most anticipated nights on the teen calendar. Filled with great expectations and grand designs prom very often ends up being more of a let down than a high point. How can you keep your prom night memories from becoming nightmares? We have some important prom saving tips for teens.

Go it alone, in a group or on a date?

The most common reason people have bad prom experiences is due to the company they choose to keep on prom night. While the romance of prom may make it seem like a night for couples, this is not always the best scenario, nor does going as part of a group guarantee a good time. Be smart about who you go with. Volatile relationships, quasi-friendships and dying romances have no place at prom.

Stick to a budget.

Proms are expensive. By the time you have paid for tickets, bought an outfit and arranged transportation you are easily at the hundred dollar mark. Want to pull off a painless and money saving prom night? Try borrowing an outfit from an older friend or parent, going in on a limo with a group and going dutch treat on the tickets. Prom doesn't have to be an investment in order to be fun!

Play it straight.

Peer pressure and pop culture have many teens believing that prom night and alcohol go hand-in-hand. This is not reality. Most proms are in fact "dry" proms and the best memories are made while sober. Afterall, who wants to spend prom night hanging over a toilet or slepping it off in a corner? Want to guarantee the best prom memories possible? Play it smart and stay straight.

Don't lose it in the romance.

It is very easy for both girls and guys to get caught up in the romantic whirlwind of prom and think that sex would be an amazing addition to the evening. This is just not realistic. The pressure to have sex on prom night is great but nothing will ruin your prom memories faster than a hasty sexual encounter. Prom night romance and sex are not a package deal - prom is more than a three letter word.

Don't dream the night away.

While prom is exciting it is really just a big party with fancy clothes. It won't be much different than any other party you attend throughout the year. You will likely hang with the same crew, talk about the same things and tell the same lame jokes. Don't expect prom to be a new dawn in your social life or the beginning of a grand love affair - great expectations always end up deflated.

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